Tell Your Captain the Truth

There's a Neverland Waiting For You

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“I am left knowing that I love you more than my own skin. And though you may not love me as much, you do love me a little. Don’t you? If this is not true, I will always be hopeful that it could be. I adore you. -Frida” Oh, how I love this quote.  Love, love, love it.  I’ve felt this way before.  And the scene in Frida where Salma Hayek pours all of her longing and loneliness and resignation into the inflection is heaven.

“I am left knowing that I love you more than my own skin. And though you may not love me as much, you do love me a little. Don’t you? If this is not true, I will always be hopeful that it could be. I adore you. -Frida”

Oh, how I love this quote.  Love, love, love it.  I’ve felt this way before.  And the scene in Frida where Salma Hayek pours all of her longing and loneliness and resignation into the inflection is heaven.

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All women dream of meeting a partner who will like our bodies as they are. We long for partners who will offer affirmation and unconditional acceptance, particularly if we have never been affirmed or were affirmed only as children in our families of origin. We long for acceptance of our physical beings, to be admired as we are, even as we withhold affirmation from ourselves. This is the worst form of self-sabotage. We can “start where we are” by offering ourselves that gaze of approval we long to see in the eyes of someone else. The more we love our flesh, the more others will delight in its bounty. As we love the female body, we are able to let it be the ground on which we build a deeper relationship to ourselves—a loving relationship uniting mind, body, and spirit.

bell hooks, “Growing into a Woman’s Body” (via typing-heartaches)

forever reblog. Loving myself turned the world upside down. I love myself from skin to bone, head to toe.

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Communion: The Female Search for Love is an incredible read.  bell hooks wrote a trilogy of books with a theme of love.  I’ve read two of the books in the trilogy —  Communion and All About Love: New Visions.  This amazing feminist, writer, and teacher was talking about radical love long before the Jessica Valenti appropriated it for her own opportunistic purposes without having a clue as to what radical love actually means.  

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Mema’s World gives writers an excuse to be assholes in the name of “Fighting Racism”

Jezebel linked to a YouTube video from MemasWorld titled “Black People Can Be Racist Too!“  Umm.  No.  People of color can be bigoted, but not racist.  Racism is prejudice + power.  People of color do not have the institutional power bestowed by white privilege to be racist.  So Mema is flat-out wrong on this one.

But what I found to be equally problematic (and also flat-out wrong) was Jezebel’s response to the video:

Honestly, I’m so impressed that this woman figured out how to A.) use a computer and B.) upload a video to YouTube that I can barely find the will to be disappointed in her.

We get it.  People from the South are uneducated.  Old people don’t know how to use technology.  I mean, this is really groundbreaking comedy, folks!  Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle ought to be taking notes from Madeline Davies.

Jezebel’s source material was I Heart Chaos, who took Jezebel’s classism a few steps further.  And they threw in some fat-phobia for good measure:

Any video that starts off with a large, toothless hillbilly woman saying “I’m not racist…” is going to be good. Or it’s going to turn into completely unintelligible gibberish.

I mean, honest to Blog.

Oppression begets oppression.  Calling this woman ugly, low-class, and overweight isn’t addressing the racism of her video.  It’s saying, “Don’t listen to people who are working-class.  Don’t listen to fat people.  Don’t listen to old folks.”

This is Intersectionality 101.  But some people never learn.  They think it’s okay to invalidate someone’s argument by invalidating their identities — particularly if those identities are marginalized. 

You’d think a bunch of hipsters were in on this one. 

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I just splurged on a limited edition print ‘Hipster Ariel’ by Priscilla Wilson.  It was part of Gallery1988’s eighth-anniversary “Memes” show, which featured over 100 artists who created artwork based on the best Internet inside jokes.  These are my favorite Hipster Ariels.

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Permanent Midnight musings

After watching the movie Permanent Midnight something like twenty times on Netflix Instant Play, I bought the memoir on which it’s based at Barnes & Noble in Bowie (that discount card pays for itself, in the end).

Jerry Stahl (italics his):

This is what I think: If you had the nerve to live what you lived, you should have the nerve to write it.

Unless writing is harder than life.  Which, if it is, just makes the task more necessary.  Because I am scared, I must not stop.

- Page 198